Showing posts with label pride. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pride. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Humility - In a Nutshell



I'm thrilled that one of my fellow writers has written a thought provoking devotional for me to share. Please welcome Pat Dyer.

In A Dozen Apologies, once Mara accepts Jesus Christ as Lord of her life, she begins to learn about humility. It can be a hard pill to swallow. 

The Macmillan Dictionary defines humility as a behavior that shows you are not proud and not thinking that you are better than other people. Synonyms for humility are modesty, unassuming, undemanding, unpretentious, low-profile. Humility is the polar opposite of pride.

Since I’ve never consciously considered myself “better than” anyone else and tend to shun the limelight, it came as a bit of a shock when God revealed my pride to me. So I said, “Okay, I need to know more.” I began to study humility/pride. Wow— was I a proud puppy!

Here are a few of the things that I learned. 

Numero Uno: You don’t have to be overtly arrogant to be prideful.
Proud people

  • are often critical of what others do or say, whether verbally or not.

  • complain a lot.

  • are self-sufficient (they think).

  • are often discontent and angry.

  • don’t spend much time in God’s Word.

  • don’t accept teaching from others.

  • are wrapped up in their own needs and desires.

  • worry a lot—fear.


In addition to alleviating the issues listed above, why cultivate a humble spirit?

It’s an act of obedience to God. “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God …” I Peter 5:6a. (NKJV)

We are to follow Christ as our example. “ Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross. Philippians 2: 5-8 (NKJV)

Humility brings peace. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1a

Humility does not in any way lessen your worth. It simply acknowledges the fact that others are no more or less as important as you. I like C. S. Lewis’ quote: “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.

“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.  Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-11 

Humility gives us confidence, knowing and acknowledging that God is in control of everything, even when we want to think “No need to bother God. I’ve got this.” 

Finally, humility must be real. John Climacus, a seventh century monk also known as St. John of the Ladder, wrote: “The image of utmost pride is a man who, for the sake of glory, hypocritically exhibits virtues which he does not possess.” 

There is nothing more off-putting than a person whose humility is false. Funny thing is—
 that kind of humility is transparent. 

About Pat:


Pat was transplanted from upstate New York to Florida at the tender age of five.  Now married to a Georgia cracker for almost fifty years and retired from a public service job, she enjoys writing and spending time with her children, grandchildren, and ten great-grandchildren. 

A member of American Christian Fiction Writers and ACFW Central Florida Chapter, Pat has served as past secretary and publicity chairperson.  Writing inspirational stories from the heart, she strives to provide encouragement and light through Jesus to those who read them.

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Join us in enjoying and learning from Mara's adventures. A Dozen Apologies 

In today's chapter, Mara finds a messy job on a chicken farm and has to face some ugly consequences of her thoughtless game. It's quite humbling. If you aren't familiar with this story, here's the synopsis.

Mara Adkins, a promising fashion designer, has fallen off the ladder of success, and she can’t seem to
get up.

In college, Mara and her sorority sisters played an ugly game, and Mara was usually the winner. She’d date men she considered geeks, win their confidence, and then she’d dump them publicly. When Mara begins work for a prestigious clothing designer in New York, she gets her comeuppance. Her boyfriend steals her designs and wins a coveted position. He fires her, and she returns in shame to her home in Spartanburg, South Carolina, where life for others has changed for the better.

Mara’s parents, always seemingly one step from a divorce, have rediscovered their love for each other, but more importantly they have placed Christ in the center of that love. The changes Mara sees in their lives cause her to seek Christ. Mara’s heart is pierced by her actions toward the twelve men she’d wronged in college, and she sets out to apologize to each of them. A girl with that many amends to make, though, needs money for travel, and Mara finds more ways to lose a job that she ever thought possible.

Mara stumbles, bumbles, and humbles her way toward employment and toward possible reconciliation with the twelve men she humiliated to find that God truly does look upon the heart, and that He has chosen the heart of one of the men for her to have and to hold.


Monday, August 6, 2012

A Matter of Choice



Christians in every place and time have a cultural blind spot. We accept some things without question because they are so integrated into our lives, even though they may not be Biblical. I think the concept of freedom is one of those blind spots for American Christians. We expect to have a voice in every decision that affects us. We expect to have the freedom to choose.

There’s a strange dynamic around choice in this passage. God chose and the people chose. Each got what they chose, but there was an order to it. First God chose, then the people chose. 

God chose the Jews to be a light to the Gentiles. The Jews chose to reject the message. But they were still a light to the Gentiles. They got what they wanted (or rather didn’t get what they didn’t want), but that didn’t cancel God’s will.

God chose for some Gentiles to believe. The Gentiles chose to accept the message gladly and thankfully. They got what they wanted which was what God wanted.

In both cases, God’s will was accomplished. In both cases, the people chose.

At this point I could write about freewill vs. God’s sovereignty, but I’m certainly not qualified to say anything profound about that. It’s more useful to think about the choices I make and whether they please God.

I know I don’t always make choices that please Him. When I don’t, I’m rejecting Him and what He offers me. I’m like the Jews who were jealous of Paul and wanted the praise he was getting. I want to be front and center. Even so, He has still chosen me and He still uses me for His purposes. 

When I do choose Him and all He offers me, it’s because He has chosen me. My response is thankfulness that He has chosen me to receive salvation. All I do should be done with humble gratitude.

God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. 1 John 4: 9-10 (NLT)

Monday, July 30, 2012

Love Comes First



Continuing the topic of my last post, these verses point out the purpose of spiritual discussions. God wants all believers to: 

be filled with love that comes from a pure heart 

have a clear conscience

have genuine faith

Meaningless discussions about spiritual matters are not just meaningless, they’re harmful. They are a waste of time and they don’t help anyone grow in faith.

I like theological discussions. I get passionate about some aspects of the truth. But I need to pause to consider why I’m in the discussion and stop if it is pointless. To defend the truth is good. To argue because I like to argue or to try to convince someone who won’t hear is harmful.

Paul wrote his first letter to Timothy to caution him about false teachers who just love to quibble over the meaning of words. There were specific issues that Paul addressed in the letter, but the principle about argument transcends those issues. Paul has some pretty scathing things to say about the false teachers. They talk with authority about things they don’t understand.

I like Paul’s approach, because it comes naturally to me. I tend to figuratively point my finger and yell, “Wrong!” But Paul’s objection is that these teachers try to sound like they know all about God’s ways but aren’t concerned about the people they’re pulling into their discussions. Instead of encouraging love, conscience and faith, they cause arguments, jealousy, division, slander, and suspicion among believers.

I need the reminder that the purpose of discussing the truth is to encourage and build up the others I’m talking with. It’s not to show that I’m right.

Or that I know about the Bible

Or that I’ve read a lot of books

Or that I have incredible insight

Yes, Paul tells Timothy to guard the truth God has entrusted to him. But he also tells him to avoid pointless discussions with argumentative people and their so-called knowledge. The whole point of talking about the truth is to help people live a life of faith in God and be filled with love.

Love comes first.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Give Me Jesus



I think I’ve been asking for too much. I pray for safety for Wayne when He’s on the road. I pray for security and happiness for my children. I pray for healing for my eyes. I pray for a lot of different things for my friends. And that’s good because God commanded us to ask.

But the writer of Proverbs has narrowed down what’s important to two things: to never lie and to be neither rich nor poor. These seem like strange requests if you’re only going to get two. But Proverbs was written by the wisest man ever (Solomon), so I’d better figure it out.

If I have too much, if I get rich, I might disown God because I won’t feel like I need Him. That self-sufficiency is a form of pride. In fact it’s putting myself in charge of my life, instead of relying on and submitting to Him.

If I have too little I may get desperate and do something dishonest like stealing to meet my needs. In a way, that too is pride. Instead of trusting God to provide, I trust myself and take what I need.

This attitude of pride is a lie. It is believing that I need to take care of myself when the truth is that everything comes from God.

Humility and gratitude are the truth.

So the writer asks God to give Him just enough to satisfy his needs. What is enough? My daily bread.

Brace yourselves, I’m going to make a huge leap here, from physical to spiritual needs. 

Jesus is the Bread of Life. He’s what I need every day. When I have enough of Him, I don’t need the world’s riches. I stop lying to myself and to God about my ability to take care of myself. I give up control to Him. On the other hand, if I don’t get enough of Him, I take what I need from the world – in essence I steal from a source that is not mine. And I tell myself that I’m satisfied, but I’m not.

Maybe it’s not that I’ve been asking for too much, but that I’ve been asking for the wrong things. Give me Jesus.